i said, go ahead and buy it and do it yourself lol....then he asked if he could use my cabinet guy, contractors, and hard money lender....wtf

Do your homework when finding a lender though, and just be prepared for what lies ahead. 

While this is just my two cents, I woudn't want to rush things.

But be sure you are 100% ready to meet the broker before you take a meeting, because if they perceive that you are a time-waster, you will never get another chance.There is no rush in this business.  

and since your April filing comes before day 180 all you need to do is file an extension if it's not done.But theres another huge reason to go ahead and start your 1031 even if you don't complete it. 

If you are relatively debt-free (minus a mortgage), if you plan large expenses several weeks or months ahead of time, and can control your business expenditures, you are much more likely to succeed.DON'T start wholesaling without regular full-time employment.DO start wholesaling if you have a back-up plan. 

The problems started right off the bat when we lost our first lender due to low Appraisal, so we had to rush and find a second and got charged an arm and a leg from this lender, but we felt we had a great deal and moved forward. 

I would put some books and other material ahead of what you're currently reading if you haven't studied very long to this point.I wouldn't worry about asking questions that regard a scenario that hasn't played out yet.

I went ahead and cancelled the contract.

Evicting a tenant in court may be easy paper wise, but given the climate of the public with law enforcement I would imagine that a sheriff wouldn't be in such a rush to physically remove the tenant from your property.