I begged him to take a consultation fee , he frowned when I sent him gift cards and told to STOP - Even now I feel guilty to waste his time . 4.

Why would a company rent conference rooms, provide meals and gifts to absolute strangers for free? 

Cash flow is of primary importance and appreciation should always be considered a gift.

Sounds like you at best made an unsecured loan, but sounds more like a "gift" because there is no promise to pay in writing AKA promissory note.I tell people to read what's in this next link for a more formal and proper way to lend privately:https://www.biggerpockets.com/forums/49/topics/555...

Even if you go to the local NMLS site to look them up, there's no way you would know they are fraudulent if he is up to date with his membership dues etc.Its sad how intricate these folks with dubious intents are in plotting their game..Thanks for the counsel.

Now the gift is an expectation of additional compensation.

I’m currently in the process of buying my father house and he has gifted me about 42k in equity now my plan is to live in that house until I find a decent multi family to rent and rent the old home out .

Perhaps a gift cert to a local restaurant for helping you out.

Given that it's the stove and dishwasher that are at issue, perhaps a gift card to a local restaurant would make sense?

I told the pm that we would like to check out the houses and give the tenants a $100 gift card each to a grocery store.