Second, I'm not even sure how to go about borrowing money from foreign soil.

I went through a borrowed copy of Carleton Sheets course, but I felt like that left me with waaayy too many questions to actually pursue a real estate deal.

Add 10% to your conservative budget and borrow that amount from the bank. 

Under this scenario, you would have mortgages (currently 740+ credit gets you 4.875% on a 30-yr), but you would also have 25% - 30% equity (or more if borrowing created anxiety for you) to alleviate much of the risk.  

In MF, I see lenders typically looking at the financial capacity of the property (from 1.15 to 1.3X cash flow relative to debt service on multifamily (MF), along with the borrower's experience.) 65-75% LTV.

If you may consider the above then you're probably going to want to have the VAFF (VA funding Fee) included in your rate instead of being financed into your loan because that will increase the cost of borrowing to you and your family in the short run.These percentages above are based on the loan amount so a 200,000 loan amount with 2.15% VAFF or VA funding fee is $4,300 dollars that would normally be financed into your loan. 

You need a license to work between a Borrower and Mortgagee where you are neither party and plan on collecting a fee.

If so, how will the money borrowed from hard money lender be allocated from the bank to lender.

-Lending is up to you and borrower to agree.  

Goes back to the borrower.