Then I started looking into the BRRR method but after reading some reviews about the hard mongley lenders I’m not sure if that is the way I want to go anymore.

The first question that came to my mind, when I read your post (other than @J Scott's post, which was really what I was thinking) was "If this family has that many millions to invest, why do they need you in the first place?"

The issue, as previously mentioned, is that a bank’s underwriter won’t be able to justify (read: approve) you and your spouse using both of your VA loans to owner-occupy two separate properties at the same time unless you were stationed at two different duty stations.What we’ve seen in the past is where a client of ours will buy a quad (4-unit) with their VA loan, occupying one of the units and then in 12 months or so either use their VA loan for a second time or their spouses for the first time to buy the next multi-family or SFR.

I just started to read some books, because i  like to read, and maybe i will learn something valuable. 

Please click on the links, give them a read, and share your thoughts in the comments.First is a post that I feel will help not get overwhelmed with the amount of info that is here on BP:https://www.biggerpockets.com/blogs/5868/52761-the-simple-guide-to-getting-started-on-bp The second is a post that will help get you focused with your real estate investing goals:https://www.biggerpockets.com/blogs/5868/52743-im-new-to-bp-any-advice-would-be-appriciatedThe last one is a post that will help you choose an “investor friendly” real estate agent.

Flooded in a country club in Wallace NC hopefully the things ive read above can help me close this deal

I've read about possibly saving up $20,000 for a down payment on a loan and also read about partnering with people to have a bigger down payment for a bigger loan.

There are some great podcasts to listen to (Bigger Pockets Podcast is the best) Great Books you can read, and tons of information you can gain from this website.

Yes, I read that and that's why I started to do a little more research.

Just read up on Wework and other co-working spaces to get a feel.