Use that number as your comparison for what it would cost if you bought a multifamily rental.Second, mortgage rates are higher than they were (and more where they'd normally be, the last ~15 years had them artificially low) and house prices are higher, so don't look at what people did 10 years ago. 

I normally buy and hold but this happens to be a flip I did, so this is fairly new to me.

Mindset is key and just know that this is a business and you would be actively seeking clients and every day you wake up your working for the paycheck you receive in 30-60 days.

Is property management normally part of this arrangement?  

Is my experience normal?

ROI is normally much better on resales. 

I have walked through and bought many hoarder houses but this fentanyl is a new game changer.. my hoarder houses have normally been bull dozed so I just send in the asbestos guy and he will be in full bunny suit.. 

Normally I'm not a fan of selling, but I would ask if this property cash flows.

I'm normally based in the Seattle area, but I have a portfolio across the midwest (Memphis and Detroit).

That's just the fact of the matter, and I think you having humility and empathy will make you a good landlord because you are dealing with people's homes where they should feel safe and comfortable and you seem to understand that this is more than just a normal business.