You can experiment with owner finance, wrap arounds, or private money.

What are the legal ramifications for a private party to  borrow from a private lender at 8% and then turning around and lending that to a rehabber for 14%?

Is there any private lenders on BP?

Company Win: We gain access to ~$250,000 as a private capital investment. 

If your able to get conventional financing (by that I mean 'Bank' financing, not private or HML) then my opinion is to sell the condo and buy at least a duplex so you have housing that's partially being paid for via rent collected from the other side.

About 2 days later I get a call asking if I would be willing to pay about $2K more as the seller didn't want to pay it and do some private deal he had with the realtor. 

You can try doing owner financing or bringing in a private lender.

If the property has some good equity and I would like to take over, how would go about in that without having to get hard money, private money and/or home loan?

They do have a section for private lenders that I will explore.

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