We bought that deal from a wholesaler claiming a 145K ARV and listed it for $174,900 which worked nicely in our favor.

You may make 100 offer and only a few will get accepted but make sure those are all in your favor and if they do get accepted that you have thought about it carefully and that is will truly benefit you if you do get a deal. 

I'm not sure she's really doing you any favors with the terms she is offering and you may be better off with conventional financing or negotiating better terms directly with her.

I just got a quad under contract that had been on the market for quite a while, the seller had kept raising the price as improvements had been made & rents increased.The house that I purchased as my primary residence had been on the market for 2 years when we purchased it and the seller was pretty motivated to give us more favorable terms.I wouldn't look at time on the market exclusively, but time on market vs average time on market.As far as when sellers get nervous/desperate, each one is different.  

Always expect the contractor to want to sway things in their favor and if you sign a contract that is worded to favor the contractor then that will be taken as applicable to law but make sure by using members of your team to watch out for your interest such as the architect, engineer or attorney. 

I don't need your life story, but an introduction will put you in a more favorable light.And, thanks for the requests!  

The market right now I would say favor the fix and flip even if you end up paying a premium to get a property.

Some might disagree with me, though I think the majority are in favor.  

Please do yourself a favor and get set up with the eviction attorney, this problem is not going to work itself out. 

I did it on one of my properties and the numbers worked out in my favor.