The solution was to stop renting 😁 As the saying goes don't hate the player. hate the game

Most private lenders are only capable of doing business purpose loans (loans to business entities) and do not participate in "consumer loans." 

If I were in this situation, I would save up a good amount of reserves and take advantage of you being an agent and get to know the players in your area; then, you can start doing house hacks on properties where you work and want to invest.

we used  her name to secure the loan and her  credit ,she is a dental hygienist so we used her pay ,she got approved for 400k and I basically just brought the 20% down payment and  the experience . it’s now been a little over 6 months we recently just got approved again for about 400k for a mortgage and we are contemplating to complete a house hack using the 3.5 leverage being that 20% down payment took a hit on my cash reserves 3.5 sounds more capable for us right now .

Most overseas investors that I have bumped into tend to fly to the city they are investing in quite frequently and really learn the players, the market and their investments. 

I could tell you that you are more than capable of accomplishing everything you mentioned.

I am worried it may be more than she's capable of handling.

If not capable to proficiently devise strategies of the time and market, and to deploy them than the answer is clear, partner or hire those who are.

My opinion is, market rate tenants are just as capable of destroying properties and there are some amazing Section 8 tenants.

I would be happy to provide photography and/or matterport services, or anything else within my capabilities.