However i could probably find some temporary housing for a month or two if i really needed.

Since the VA loan interest rate is much higher right now, I would probably just keep my 2.25% and use the ARM to "tie-up" the condo until you can refinance in a much better rate. 2.25 on a 30 year is pretty nice and sounds like you'll preserve much more cash flow by using the temporary ARM to tie up the condo.

It was difficult to let go emotionally as it was a family business but it was the correct choice.

Here's why (hear me out):"marry the property, but date the rate"Rates, even 30yr fixed, should be viewed as temporary. 

First, I think we overpaid for this property, emotions got the best of us.

For me I stick with my number and do not let emotions kick in.

But this football player was from American Samoa and had an emotional support dog. 

These intra family financial dealings can often come can often come with emotional involvement, especially if payments are missed.

I have heard every story in the book, ( I have done 1ks  of move in and outs in the Cleveland markets )  This the exact reason why EVERY investor should hire a PM co, keep emotions out of it , 

You may be making it more complicated because you are already emotionally involved.Ignore your current situation.