I don't see how you have a better alternative.  

Our primary interest is fix-flip (with BRRRR as a VERY acceptable alternate exit strategy - our long term goal anyhow...).

@Rong LiuI tend to think along lines of Buy and Hold, if the property is in a desirable area, if the property is in a growth area, and if it is generating income.If the property doesn't meet those 3 criteria, and is in a declining area, a high crime area, or an area with poor schools, then I would sell and take the money and invest it elsewhere.However, there a third alternative to holding or selling, sort of a middle ground. 

Does anybody have any suggestions for alternatives lenders that might have more flexibility?  

Alternatively, you can get it from the MLS- but of course, you need to be paying realtor dues to get access to this. 

Im thinking of selling my home to make this happen but would like to hear any other options or alternatives.

Alternatively you could find a standard purchase and sale agreement and assignment agreement and have an attorney in your area review it. 

I have extensive experiencewith hubzu.com/Altisource/Ocwen et al and I am not aware of an alternative to the auction process with the exception of a bulk sale whereby the property is offered to select investors along with a large group of properties.

Deed in lieu of foreclosure is not an investment strategy it is a disposition alternative.

Have you been looking for alternative management companies yet?