Every deal has its own merits and when I say 'hands on', I mean in the sense of analyzing the deal for what it is.

Shrug and say 'oh well'.Each opportunity should have to meet our criteria and stand on it's own merit.  

If you think there is any merit in pursuing private money and developing a nice retirement community on this property your thoughts are appreciated.

It's likely your dispute will have merit and you can get it cancelled.It also sounds like the owners of the trademark are doing the legally correct things to protect their trademark, to prevent other people from using it, so it doesn't become diluted. 

Agreed, neither you or your attorney can actually do anything to defend the suit....that’s on the lender.One the other issues....if someone moves and doesn’t change their official,address with the bank or property appraiser office....there is no defense to not being served.....hiding from service doesn’t stop the process.As for the escrow thing, yeah irrelevant and not grounds for much of anything.Attorneys, especially when filing a suit they think has little merit, will throw out a bunch of allegations....they probably know they’ll lose but they’re getting paid to do it, right?

However, every case should be looked at individually on its own merits and it looks like you've done this.

And you got one for her, so there must have been some merit in it, right?

If you can afford the purchase price of the property on your own merits, there is nothing stopping you from purchasing a residential property (1-4 units) with the VA loan.  

Is there a certain holding period that the bank will start to look at the property and its merits to loan against? 

Based on your story there is some merit to be able to help her alleviate some of that vacancy and cleaning pain points if that's important to her.