Is this a situation where we (as sellers) would reach out to a wholesaler?

You can enforce either notice so you may not need to wait the full 90 days in this situation.

With actual cash, you just transfer it. yes, but you can still bid with lender approval - without appraisal contingency - you send in deal (app), it gets approved by lender its functionally the same as cash (except in true lightning speed situations where there is a quick auction with little time to prep but thats generally pretty rare I'd think)Right, but that's not cash or functionally the same as cash because the lender can change the terms at the last minute, as often happens with less experienced hard money lenders.

I'm in a similar situation.

My opinion only 2 cases make sense for the seller 1) they have few options and this presents the best means to get out if a bad situation.  

Went through extra fast because the developer really had no other good optionsI doubt we'll know the full details for years to come but I'm curious if you have an opinion, or if there's other probable options C,D,E I could be missing as just a public bystander to the situation @Rene Hosman It's very rare that anything gets done quietly behind the scenes.

Prepare for additional costs: If you’re adding units, you’ll likely need to address the water meter situation and possibly upgrade utilities.

Unfortunately many landlords take the first group they find in these situations and come from the ideology that all college students are slobs so no sense offering anything nice. 

I will return to this situation in the end of this post, but first let me show you why the age of a person can be tricky when it comes to the IRS.

I like the not living in the flip part, I don't see that being conducive to my family situation.