But if they want to be hard-nosed about it and tell me in no uncertain terms to either pay up now or pay a lot more in higher fees (bad credit rating, public notices on my record, eviction, and so forth), I accept the fact they have the legal right to exercise their nuclear option.As far as I know, everyone faces the same potentially harsh consequences when something goes wrong (for example, the tenant in the White House can be evicted for committing high crimes and misdemeanors).

Why wouldn't the LL, who has all the risk, hire a legit PM (licensed) which ideally provides some added protections rather than let the unlicensed person (you) act in the role of PM with their expensive asset (in San Diego almost assuredly over $0.5M and fairly likely over $1M). 

However my net was higher, so I am not sure if it played a role.

The value of the assets, the number and percentage ownership of the beneficiaries, etc allplay a role in how this plays out. 

-What's the agent's role if I have a question about turning a claim in?

Have you already reached out to other management companies in the area or local managers in the area that could take on this role for you?

But what is my role here?

You said wife is “sole proprietor “ You can most likely role your old 401ks into your IRAs or possibly your present employers plan. 

(j) Unless otherwise provided in the limited liability company agreement, a member shall cease to be associated with a series and to have the power to exercise any rights or powers of a member with respect to such series upon the assignment of all of the member's limited liability company interest with respect to such series.

As I haven’t gotten to do much research, I was thrown into this role before I felt prepared, what are some ways to finance a <$2mill deal with a $100k-250k down payment, or less depending on how much deferred maintenance the property has.