I would perform an investment portfolio analysis running on your options on your real estate singularly and cumulatively.

but I got two homes now. so don't know about adding a third  one..

I would have the buyer make all payments to a third party servicing company. 

I believe they meet first and third Wednesday of each month.

If your properties are not performing well now they will only do worse if you refi. 

I use them, but they offer essential no customer support as a third party intermediary and they target bank often can’t help you with Zelle related deposit issues as they have no visibility into money deposited into Zelle

If you weren't house-hacking and therefore not there all the time, and if you used a PM who sent maintenance staff to perform repairs, would the dirty dishes and smell be reported to you?

Have you found your rental has performed?

he was insanely upset (and this was like his third time losing out, I felt like a failure!) 

@Daniel Kauffman Thanks for the feedback on what photos perform the best.