There are a lot of alternative lenders out here with competitive rates.

My goal would be to recoup ALL of the cash invested in the property.Assuming I am not able to pull all of the cash out, would it be a good alternative to take a temporary DFE loan for the purchase price (take a slightly higher rate, use the lender refund to avoid paying closing costs and just pay higher interest for 5 - 6 months) and then refinance again later when the 6 months seasoning period is up?  

Mainly been listening to the BP podcasts from the beginning and reading, well actually listening to books while I'm driving (I'm a truck driver).I joined a webinar today and it was so informative that I wish I had become more active in the forums when I first joined a couple months ago.

They have rented a moving truck to vacate the property so I can close on their house this Thursday.

Of course - he had a truck and equipment, but the best thing you can do now honestly is save up money and learn all that you can. 

But this is a small unit, where the third bedroom/den has no window, and the property is close enough to a busy street and train tracks that you can hear the truck traffic and the train. 

From there, the truck takes it past our town to the post office at the next town, 10 miles away, where it is given to a rural carrier to bring back to our town for delivery.

The last alternative is to get this all redone.  

I would advise you to trust your gut, perhaps its time to pursue an alternate lender.

You have advocated use of an option contract as an alternative to wholesaling.