I guess what I am wondering is if I am not being as ambitious as I should be to look for those larger deals, or if I should keep looking to add singles instead of home runs to reach my goals in this long journey.Thank you for reading this, and if there are any other investors, like me, that feel like they don't know their next step please share your story!

I don’t really care about the training as I’m only really interested in having access to the MLS and saving commission on deals when I find them.Just wondering if there are any local options and maybe one brokerage to cover both New York and New Jersey.

Wondering if you ended up going with EKM and if you're happy with them? 

For starters, I suggest you tune in to the BiggerPockets Podcast and connect with the local lenders and brokers.

As a side note, feel free to throw suggestions and let me know its a dumb move to buy property as primary residence and pay 7.5% mortgages, sit out. :) I wont mind at all.

lower the size of your unit and therefore your build cost per unit, your sale price will go down but focus on density and get familiar with zoning and what your city will approve. my best suggestion is to do it in downtown districts where there is unlimited height and unlimited floor area and you can build every square inch of the property and reduce parking because of proximity to transit. property values are higher, rents are higher in downtown markets, there are just too many economies of scale compared to suburban deals.

I know that there are companies out there as well as independent contractors and wanted to know where to start or any suggestions. 

I suggest working with @Jordan Moorhead and his team.

Also wondering if I can get a second loan (Commerical) looking to go bigger with a 5+ unit building using the 75% of profit from first one. 

At a bare minimum, I suggest reviewing the Fannie/Freddie guidelines.