I currently own 19 rental units and have basically done everything myself and worked myself to near burn out.  After reading a few books and listening to bigger pockets pod casts I know I may need to hire a property m...

Spouse may qualify for VA loan, but generally shouldn't have changed his bank loan opportunity, as those are generally filed jointly.Generally PD application, or rather loan qualification based upon PD application is only after you are sworn in, and not any step before it.You will have to prove to the bank that you will have continued income to pay off the debt.

Any advice or sites that can give a step by step on how to do this?

Step away from this nonsense.Unless she has a source of income to actually buy this, that she hasn't declared to the local housing authority, I will bet that she wants to use her Section 8 deposits to  you to purchase the house. and if she hasn't declared her extra income to section 8, then she's just defrauding the system.You can either say "no" directly to her, or just say that you still have a mortgage and you can't enter into a lease purchase agreement for at least another 12 years.

They initial it.More than once it has helped the tenant get rid of a 'friend' who has over-stayed their welcome and the tenant was appreciative.

Base your initial offer on the current financials, keeping in mind that you will manage it better, screen better, and get expenses down and income up.

I've been talking about it for a good while now, but never initiated to start gathering vital information until now.

Usually it is the tenant that initiates the move out in a constructive eviction.

When they say do 10 steps instead of saying (Can't I do just 7 this is so much work?

You might be able to help your fellow service man with a step by step plan.