@Jesse Jones-Smithhi. i tend not to advise people on personal residence items because... it's too personal. so i'll just pick one thing you mentioned and provide a comment. 

But I am old school its why I only use Commercial banks I want to pick up the phone and talk to my banker.

There are going to be three levels of addressing this 1) things you can simply go there and do anytime (pick up pet waste and throw it away) 2) things you can do given proper notice (enter the unit and inspect, repair damage etc) and 3) things you can only do given proper process/procedure (notice to vacate, increase rent etc.)

I picked up 3 since September and have more in the pipeline.

Just for your own sake I would pick just a few zip codes to focus in on first and committ to reviewing/analyzing 50-75 properties on those zip codes.

Id either focus on flipping - maybe pick up some good deals now in the weather affected areas, or getting duplexes in other states less likely to be affected by Hurricanes. 

A numbers game implies you will eventually get success guaranteed.The fact of the matter is unless you target every single person in the USA, AND there is a guarantee that at least one person is motivated, AND there is a guarantee they get no other mailers, or temptation from competitors and they pick you... 

His story was, he failed in business 2 times and figured it out on the 3rd go around. 3billion later i got to take a picture with him.Since then I havent went to another training, course or weekend event. only working to unpack the information that I picked up to be useful so definitely no argument there. 

here is the situation. i left a really good paying job to take care of my 81 year old parents because my dad is chronically ill and my mom is almost there. i wont go into too much detail, but my sis doesnt help them. ill leave it at that. we have a person who comes twice a week to help with cleaning and other household tasks. i carry the bulk of the weight cooking their meals, running errands, grocery shopping, picking up meds, and taking them to dr appointments. its a full time job. i get a small salary of $1000 a month from a care giver sub contractor for the VA. ive been paying my bills with what savings ive had, but only have a few months of funds left. i own a duplex. i have over 200k in equity. i live in texas and texas has weird laws about refi and heloc/heloans when the property is 4 units or less and owner occupied. i would rather not sell, but if thats my only option i will have to at some point.does anyone have any advice or possibly be able to point me to lenders who might be able to work with my situation?

I would be interested in picking up a copy.