My ADU is under 500 sq ft, so I didn't have to pay the extra sewer connection and school fees.

if they are pressuring you like this.PLEASE watch the American Greed Episode on Remmington Financial  .not saying these guys wont or don't fund of course.. but when I do my deals with my banks its common that I pay for the phase one and the appraiser directly..  

and are you looking to walk away with cash or simply refinance (meaning paying off) what you owe? 

That way you can take advantage of the tenants paying down your mortgage and the appreciation of the property .Best of Luck.

The commissioner ordered me to pay the plaintiff over $9k plus her attorney fees.

You can't directly do something to allow you to sell the flip, and buy the triplex without paying gains. 

We accepted a pre list offer of $236000.00 with us paying the closing and are scheduled to close mid March. 

Get them to give you an idea of what they are paying for party /event space now in Amarillo and if they would sell your venue for you.

Keep in mind that all this time we were living with my parents paying them rent but saving/starving to score our next deal. 

If you can buy a 4 flex that will allow your tenants to pay most if not all your mortgage.