I would recommend coming out to these subgroup meetings specifically, and begin chatting with the sub group leaders about their respective counties.

If you are able to obtain the contact information for the descendant heirs, when approaching the be careful not to come off as an opportunist, instead of someone who cares and want to ensure the home and its memories are preserved.Maybe the reception you received at the door was a case of the person focusing on the lost and  all the other things they needed to do with respect to the recent passing and not what they are going to do with a house.Paulette

@Alexander Stephenson I respect your point, but I would have to disagree.

Big picture:It's your lender's job to advise you of your options and what makes sense, to communicate with you about the largest financial event of your life to date (& to respect that fact), and I could go on and on.

You need to gently and respectfully disabuse her of this point of view.

@Mike H.All due respect, you are not accurate in your depiction of my responses.

We are reaching out to him to explore just what you mention - retaining the exterior facade and incorporating enough to the interior - particularly the trompe l'oeil - to pay respect to the history of the building.Senior living is an avenue we are exploring, but might be cost prohibitive if an elevator need be incorporated.We dismissed B&B - the property would be fitting, but they are in abundance already and some of the older, more established ones are struggling these days.If it wasn't for the fact we have real winters here and 6500 ft^2 of this age costs ~10-12K to heat - we could experiment with less risk.The purchasing of this property will undoubtedly be the least costly aspect of a deal.

He says FHA/203k is not super preferred in NYC but it is still possible.There are a lot of people talking about New Jersey on BP as well, specifically Union City and West New York, NJ for multifamily.I'm personally looking at Stamford and Norwalk in Connecticutclose to their respective downtowns and public transit.

Though i respect anyone making a living, i see this as a side hustle and not any form of steady employment to count on.

He says a lot of the things I read on here, especially with respect to alleviating my fear of the expensive market I live in.