In Las Vegas, for a short time they were the way to go, but the market out here has shifted and short sales in most cases are no better than a bank owned and the bank owned is a much quicker straight forward transaction so the need to pursue what is often a messy more time consuming transaction isnt necessary.  

Its more costly on your part and time consuming and stressful but it would be for her as well.

A deficiency can be obtained through a judicial foreclosure process however,  The Mortgagee must pick one action path there to pursue which will affect the potential time. 

Consume everything u can on BP concerning wholesaling.

Borrow from two hard money lenders to pay cash Please advise us in the most astute method of action.

That impression could be very expensive, time consuming and hard to defend against if a family member or government agency objects later on.  

It has little to do about real estate but more about their inner doubts and failure to take action.

Stripping wall paper is painful and time consuming. 

You have already done the hard part of taking action.

Does anyone know of any of the direct to consumer sites (like Zillow) that allow users of the platform to give feedback on a listing?