I am running around this morning, so I feel like the above is a bit disjointed.

So after being laid off a few times in the last 8 years I decided to get back into investing but this time focusing on buy and hold multi family real estate so that I could built wealth that could help me retire my wife who just had a long battle with cancer and survived , but is now back to work, and I want to give her a relaxing life free of all the stress of the world (by the way did I mention she is also in the mortgage lending field) so that explains the urgency to retire her from w-2 work ! 

That would be best option as a traditional bank wouldn’t do this

Quote from @Marcus Auerbach: I've researched this and I believe it's vague on purpose.

If you're looking for a great way to find off-market properties with less competition is by using a method called Driving for Dollars.

Since we don't use Padsplit and manage everything ourselves, we simply call it co-living.

At this point, I definitely would find some solace in that. 

It’s 50% of the land providing 100% of the construction . welcomes first time investors Can you go into what this entails?  

Let's hear who you use and why you recommend them or don't. 

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