For example, there is a Keurig coffee machine - should they share the cost of the coffee pods via an honor system jar? 

Because of the element of surprise and finding the hand clearly in the cookie jar, I believe the discussion can be very much open and you remain in control, as you should be.

Kitchen: New cabinets (but not at big box stores), New custom counters (granite or quarts), New floors and likely new or newer appliances.Bathrooms: Cosmetic updates to total gut depending on how old they are.New Carpet and Hardwoods as needed.Interior and exterior painting as needed.Landscape within budgetBuy and HoldsDon't open walls except where no header is required as needed.Keep cabinets in kitchens and bathrooms unless damaged.

The C neighborhoods in Raleigh are anything east of Capital Blvd, anything around MLK Drive and Rock Quart Road.

He acted like a kid that just got busted with his hand in the cookie jar and denied everything and called me everything in the book, and the man doesn't even know me.

. ;) (so I appreciate you adding your $.02)That being said I can see how that would have been a jarring and life-altering time for you, perhaps especially at your age.

I will get there soon even having to put my own money back into the jar.