Just encouraging you to explore how you approach this business.  

Lack of professional business approach will cost a landlord every time. 

Your Realtor brought the Wholesaler to you?

Maybe you found the deal, secured the debt, and then brought the opportunity to your partners and you will all be managing the property.

I do my best not to mix personal with business, that said, no one on my side of the family really has any money and I didn't even want to approach my wife's family until I had a proven business model that I was successfully executing.

I'm very deliberate in my approach.

For the last 6 months I've been self employed with my online company.I finally have some real money and I really, REALLY want to finally pull the god damn trigger.I have no friends with real estate and seems like anyone ive approached locally doesn't want their territory stepped on, only interested in selling their (cash flowing at least) flip. 

I just brought my new house which allowed me to rent out the old one.

A better approach would be for you to put yourself in the shoes of the type of person you would like to help you and think about how you might make them interested in doing so. 

Using equity from my primary residence and then the 2nd mortgage approach will obviously increase my debt.