If the deal is worth it I could withdraw from my IRA.At this point I think I'd have to get a hard money loan and definitely have skin in the game to get the loan.

Money really matters in the buy and hold game.

@Derek T.I am new to the rehab game so I am not much use when it comes to numbers, but I do have a question for ya. 

I have a side online business, self-employed, and my CPA suggested that I should open solo 401k with that business and move my SDIRA funds into this Solo K account since it's got better tax treatment around UBIT.I contacted IRA Services and Trust (custodian) whom I have IRA account with and they said in order to open Solo K, I have to establish my company's Solo K Plan and provide them with "Self Employed 401(k) Custody Agreement".They said I can hire a CPA or lawyer to do that.

Long term game, we are looking to really target multifamily properties for long term wealth accumulation and cash flow, but I don't see how that could even be remotely possible in the CA market without substantial starting capital.Some of my other thoughts creating our indecisiveness include:-Despite the amount of research and networking we do, would out of state investing for a beginner not be advised?

., you may have to bring in investors, partners, or HML, but now you have substantial backing of your own to show that you have skin in the game.

Would have to be an easier entrance into the role vs buying one on its own...from there, you could work to find partners now that you’ve established that your first rental is going well.

They have more skin in the game then you do.Make sure you get clear title.

Do they have similar “skin in the game?”

I would suggest that you establish relationships with some wholesalers or any other provider that has rental property that meets your profile, and spend some time communicating with them and building a relationship.