Good luck -getting in the game is important so don’t get paralysis by analysis. 

Since I don't currently have an agents license I am considering wholesaling as my "in" into the game.

If an investor isn't game for research, due dil and some increased time/effort, then a self-directed IRA may not be a good fit. 

@Dustin VerleyI bought current receivables from manufacturing companies for a discount and was paid by their customers directly in 30, 60, 90 days depending on the terms agreed by the company and the customer. 

I work as a sales engineer but have been spending the last year researching the real estate game and the B.P. community seems to be very nice and helpful so I'm glad to be here!

You don't really talk about real estate or what's going on in the community since you're playing a game, but eventually you'll strike a conversation with someone who knows a lot about the area as well.

Just a little about me, I own a painting company, however, we do custom cabinetry, dry walling, flooring, etc.

Guy is playing a game of chess.

Chris, I haven’t used First United for a duplex, but do have experience working with them on traditional mortgages and to be honest I’m not surprised they got their info wrong, their knowledge and customer service isn’t the best (and their website isn’t user friendly at all) I would definitely talk to other banks.

I understand all your fears and it is a hurdle/risk we have to overcome in order to ger skin in the game.