Regarding calculating ARV, we also own a mortgage company and a real estate company, we we do a CMA using the MLS.

It is also good to aks as a back up if they offer an I/O Interest Only option and do they calculate the DSCR based on the PITI or ITI for I/O to also help qualify.

You need to calculate your number.  

I felt he was still calculating, examining me in this strange way that sends shivers down my spine when I think about it. 

looking to accurate my rehab costs calculator, specifically in the Pittsburgh area.Of course, It varies from one investor to another, depending on the quality, standard, size, condition, and team.I am looking to get a range or see how much you pay for each remodeling. 1) what's your range for remodeling a kitchen completely (granit, backsplash, tiles, etc)?

We run calculators on what you can expect for expenses beyond your mortgage, I don’t like surprises.

Have you calculated your monthly appreciation?  

With BiggerPockets Pro you can access a lot of great calculators & tools for doing exactly what you mentioned above.

Deduct NEW property taxes after you buyDeduct home insurance costsDeduct maintenance percentage, typically 10%Deduct vacancy+tenant nonperformance percentage(we recommend 5% for Class A, 10% Class B, 20% Class C, good luck with Class D)Deduct whatever dollar/percentage of cashflow you wantNow, what you have left over is the amount for debt service.Enter it into a mortgage calculator, with current interest rate for an investment property, to determine your maximum mortgage amount.Divide the mortgage amount by either 75% or 80%, depending on the required down payment percentage - this is your tentative price to offer.If the property needs repairs, you'll want to deduct 110%-120% of the estimated repairs from this amount.Be sure to also research the ARV and make sure it's 10-20% higher than your tentative purchase price.As long as the ARV checks out, this is the purchase price to offer.It is probably significantly below the asking price.

Also, I assume a 10% property management fee in my calculations and based on initial conversations.