We are now working on the kitchen, we plan on painting the cabinets white as they are still in good condition, we just don’t like the orange/golden oak look, will also be adding hardware and backsplash.

If he wants to stay, then he needs to be added to the lease. 

Looks like Seattle to be added to the list from a post on here as well.personally i am keeping an eye on government policies and MSM. 

Do many tenants resist it, kind of like people want "Free Shipping" would they expect "Free Utilities" or should I be adding a $50-$100/mo utility surcharge into my future leases on this property?

This is something which will be added in my future leases.

Inside and along the floor, we run a bead of kitchen and bath caulking.  

When I wrote the lease, I put in that the lease was for 1 tenant only with no more than 1 additional to be added and that the procedure for the additional tenant would be the same as it was for the original tenant with an increase in X amount of rent so they knew when they signed the lease that should they decide to add their boy/girl friend that this is what would happen.

If the lease does not contain a requirement of notice prior to entry, the tenant can request such language be added before the lease is signed.

If not, those will need to be added in along with other expenses.

At the least, you could request to be added to his wholesale buyers list.If you find that he doesn't, feel free to touch base with my team and we'd love to serve you. :)