We are both committed to re-investing any cash flow back into the asset to snowball equity as quickly as possible.

When a tenant moves out, transfer the deposit back to Checking so it's ready to apply towards expenses or refund the Tenant.If you end up with excess funds in the Checking account, I recommend you transfer it to a third account designated explicitly for future investments.

A renovation company that has already completed over 350 renovations for us will quickly do whatever touchups/repairs are necessary so we can get the property back on the market.Use electronics to control access and reduce turnover time.

Is his capital only paid back when there is a "capital" event like a sale or refinance?

Live in the multi-family for a year, then move back into your own home and rent out the unit.If if not ideal, it's worth the hassle. 

I provided a free rent back for 2 weeks so the seller could get her funds and relocate.

I have had clients that had a quote come back 5K a year more than we expected it to come back.

@Jay Hinrichs thanks, it's very helpful to understand the ways this may play out. the bottom line is that, at this point, i can't count on either owning the property outright or getting my funds back until 30 days AFTER the judge approves the sale.  

When I did open my SDIRA back when, I had done a lot of research but I guess I missed the understanding or knowledge of banks also having SDIRAs.

And even those remittances often come back in the form of trade and economic growth."