Don't get to the point where you feel desperate and hopeless because that's about the time you'll strike gold as in Napoleon Hill's Three Feet from Gold story about perseverance.  

While everyone desperately collects buyers and begs buyers to be on their list...

So I bought a duplex about a year ago using the VA home loan and doing the whole house hack thing and its going well. I'm doing a bunch of cosmetic work that I can afford for now however the duplex NEEDS new windows v...

If a wholesaler is clear to the reasons that a purchase may not close at the time of negotiation and the property does not close for one of those reasons, then the whole saler has done what they indicated to the often desperate seller.  

That makes you look desperate not motivated.

I've dealt with distressed homeowners needing help over the years and know a lot from that angle, but I've become interested in flipping and wholesaling, it seems like something I could do well, which can  help desperate homeowners needing help + provide some financial relief also to walk away from their home and avoid foreclosure.

He sounded desperate to sell when I talked to him because the house belonged to his deceased brother, which I assume makes him the landlord.

The kind of people that literally contact everyone out of desperation. 

When that happens sellers will desperately find you and beg you to buy their house. 

But is there someone, somewhere desperate for housing that will take it for a minimal rent?