I'm sure you can learn all about best strategies, tricks, tips, etc, but I'd suggest focusing on the baby steps right in front of you.

Every one of my rentals yields WAY more return above and beyond expenses.THe trick is that you have to search for the property that will "pencil".

I felt tricked as i thought i was going to be helping us both get our money back.

This seems to do the trick. 

I don't like to trick anyone into anything. 

The Airbnb/VRBO apps have some useful little tricks like saved responses. 

If you were local there are more tricks you could use to get her out.

Get some experience with the system, learn some tips and tricks (Bigger Pockets being SUPER helpful), then once your feet are wet, start going out of state. 

I bought some of that opaque window film and it seems to do the trick.

When I told her this wasn’t allowed, she asked what part of the lease prevented it (there wasn’t anything in the lease that prevented it) …needless to say, I changed my lease to clearly state that each room in the house was single occupancy, and that there were limits on the frequency of guests (you live and you learn).This is by no means an exhaustive list of house hacking tips/tricks, it’s just what came to mind…It’s also worth remembering that, even with extensive preparation, house hacking can be challenging, and things WILL go wrong (e.g.; inconsiderate housemates, broken leases, furnaces that kick the bucket at the WORST possible time, etc., etc.).