VA administration has a great website with a lot of details about the program: https://www.benefits.va.gov/homeloans/@Alan RezaNot 100% what checklist you're talking about, but send me a message.

However, I'm interested in more detailed guidelines regarding the specific categories of expenses and income, as well as any operational assumptions you might advise.For instance:General and Administrative Expenses: How do we determine if costs related to software, credit card fees, office supplies, etc., are reasonable based on the size (square footage) of the facility?

I would mention the fact that your neighbors are ok with your renovation and that the administrative nightmare is causing you and your family financial harm. 

Check with your plan administrator for details.

The short version is I came up in the construction industry and moved into an administrative position in my mid 20's.

Our first offer was from a paleontologist relocating from Oxford University, the next one was from two Google employees, and in the end, the new city administrator of Ann Arbor, recruited from Austin, was the buyer, which was kind of cool.

I graduated from college with a degree in business administration so have a basic understanding as to what makes businesses successful.

She is looking for freelance work to bring in some extra money.I can utilize her for working on my social media presence, SEO, and some other administrative tasks around marketing.I have already told her that it will probably be small tasks to start out with and I can't pay her anything steady until I start getting more deals and bring in more income as I scale.Curious what everyone is paying for this type of work?

The current SDIRA administrator I am talking to says it's not mentioned specifically, and it's considered a gray area;  that most tax attorneys recommend to avoid it.

I was fortunate enough to to get a job there right after graduating (from a different college) with a BS in Business Administration.