I don't think you are discriminating against her.  Being

Despite being so old the house itself is in great condition as my grandmother took pride in everything she did. we just did some CapEx on the house (vapor barrier and roof work). need new flooring, bathrooms and kitchen remodel, paint and landscaping at the minimum.

I'm probably going to rip out the entire floor and install a vapor barrier + LVP and paint the wood panels to white to brighten the basement. 

Thank you @Casey Mericle, yes her being furloughed is the main issue at the moment.

The scope of work is inclusive of only a handful of materials (leveling compound, bonding agent, cement board, vapor barrier, tape, red guard, grout, thinset, sheetrock, firring strips, mud, fasteners, old work boxes, light switches, duplex receptacles, and cover plates) and all labor.

My recommendation if you are going to finish would involve adding french drain and sump pump, sealing walls with dryloc, then 2" XPS which acts as the vapor barrier, before framing and finishing. 

You can let her know about the property and have her be as active as she would like to be and as active as your wife thinks is appropriate for her right now that won’t take away from her developmental experiences.Then, when she graduates high school, the property should have 20-30k equity that can go towards her education and she can learn as much as she is willing to take advantage with the process of owning a property without the stress of managing it.I share this with you both as a marriage therapist and as an investor who has done this exact thing with my oldest 3 kids (ages 14, 13, and 10).

Since they are often located in residential neighborhoods, they can pose significant toxic tort claims. even if groundwater is not used for drinking purposes, vapors can migrate into homes.

Makes me laugh when people like Harry Dent predict a 80% stock market crash and 50% real estate crash (whatever that means), the money will just VAPORIZE lolI'm hoping for a 10-20% pullback in some markets, if we are lucky.

But a conservative estimate of the property damages that didn't even include a bunch of minor stuff was $1200.Sorry for the tangent, but I also have to add that she actually wanted me to allow her, her b/f, and their carpenter friend to fix things so she could get some of the deposit back.