To simplify the scenario I'm envisioning let me put it this way: what does a BRRRR look like when one of the parties contributing to the down payment and rehab costs ultimately ends up being the renter as well?

I'm sure he could give you some pointers on setting up a business and creative ways to save money.

I get that labor costs (along with everything else!)

I BELIEVE this credit would be treated just like covering buyer’s closing costs. 

While the borrowing costs are higher, I’m exploring strategies where the returns could offset this.

Your taxes are none of the ex wife's business and this would seem to address your concerns.I would also put her on notice that future requests for financial discovery will be two-way and if a discrepancy is seen in the other direction you will seek support from her.

Hey everyone, I’m just curious if any of you have any good links to blogs about saving money on food costs for a family.

This also leaves me with $3,750 stuck in the deal (not including financing and closing costs, which could easily add another $20,000).In total, if I had to include closing costs and financing costs, I’d have about $23,000 (if not more) tied up in the deal and lose close to $700/month before accounting for expenses.

All the other real estate in my businesses are counted as assets minus the debt liabilities for net worth purposes and the business income that comes to me is counted as part of my personal income.

But for large multi-family, that amount hardly covers your legal fees for one transaction, let alone down payment, due diligence costs, lender fees, other closing costs, etc.