Hi, Marcus - congratulations on the impending marriage!  

The dynamics of marriage are so broad and specific to each couple that I don't feel comfortable even making a suggestion.From my personal viewpoint.....I've been married for almost 18 years so my general perspective is....if things go really well with your investing, you'll look like a hero to your wife.

Conventional for mixed use financing will require:The property must be a one-unit dwelling that the borrower occupies as a principal residence.The borrower must be both the owner and the operator of the business.The property must be primarily residential in natureA gift can be provided by:• a relative, defined as the borrower’s spouse, child, or other dependent, or by any otherindividual who is related to the borrower by blood, marriage, adoption, or legal guardianship;or• a fiancé, fiancée, or domestic partner.The donor may not be, or have any affiliation with, the builder, the developer, the real estateagent, or any other interested party to the transaction.Gifts must be evidenced by a letter signed by the donor, called a gift letter.

I've been through a handful, however, you are talking about you and your spouse so you already are in a "partnership" called marriage lol.

I lived there for the next 9 years, through another not great marriage and into a really happy one.In 2016 I was blessed with the news that my current wife and best friend was pregnant, something that I didn't think was in the cards for me.

Sounded like a good marriage.

If he was bedridden and not of sound mind, he couldn't have given his consent to the marriage, could he?

I would be cautious of improving a real estate asset while the divorce is being finished, unless you can have your lawyer talk to your "soon to be ex's" lawyer, and place this asset, even though you don't own it yet, outside the bounds of the marriage assets.

Im going to the township office tomorrow to get my marriage license so I will poke around the construction office as well.

Ask to see the marriage license , and the orders .