I would prefer a multifamily, but she won't go for that because she's afraid of the lack of privacy, and she's idealized getting a "big house," whereas I'd prefer a smaller house because it's less of a financial burden.

There are also a lot of people looking to get out of the city life including a lot of Veterans and want a larger parcel that offers privacy.

You can chose an UPS close to your home, the UPS account is to have more security, privacy and it looks better than a residential address.I think is good to let them know that you are familiar to the area.

Of course for privacy reasons he might have withheld some information or something that he thinks is trivial , might completely tilt the situation in favor of one side .

We would also be able to market to people that are on temporary duty or to extended families that are visiting.The advantage of staying in a duplex on our land include:1) Full Kitchen2) Ample parking for moving vans, trailers, boats, etc3) Washer/dryer in unit4) Pet Friendly 5) More space and privacy than a hotelPotential Disadvantages:1) Cost to build: I expect that the cost to build the duplex will be around $85/sq ft.

This is in {large} part due to privacy law and in-part due to the difference in the financial system around mortgages.  

One could gt a vinyl window, one pane (I think they call it picture window or something like that) with privacy glass.

I spent 18 months looking for the right one that I can rent for now but in my later years I can have on property help without having to be in my house (every one's privacy).

I removed our rental property address for privacy purposes:Opinion 1:"In current condition I estimate the home to be worth $92/ft ($125,000).

My dilemma:  I'm interested in owner-occupying a multi-family house and following some of the investment rules (1.5-2%, cap rate, etc), but how do I get pass some of the issues with location and losing some of my privacy.