The title company that was used for this transaction held things up and unfortunately, we had no control over that.

See what other controls they offer.  

I would like to be in control of my money, so I have always gone with the highest deductible posable and maximized cashflow.  

Despite the inability to claim depreciation or avoid certain taxes, many investors appreciate the control an SDIRA offers, allowing them to invest directly in real estate and other alternative assets they are passionate about.I do not recommend buying tax-efficient assets like RE in the already tax-efficient IRAs.

The issue I have here is how much control they have over my position, ( they have the right to buy me out at any time).  

The lessons you learned the hard way in 2008 will be invaluable now, and it’s great that you’re aiming to stay small-scale and within your comfort zone of Sacramento, which gives you an advantage of knowledge in that market.Given your experience, I'd say start by focusing on three key areas to build confidence and minimize risks:Budget Control: Over-renovating was one of the big mistakes you mentioned.

Its all about the heavy brush with Manzanita and other dense brush full of oils that burn so hot and fast.. thats why in many areas in CA they have control burns..

I am more likely to take a risk, but i suspect when my husband is out from under a controlling baby mama, he won’t mind a little risk either.I love Texas, try to vacation there often and my husband is aligned with Texas farm property as a ten year long term goal.I’m also passionate about the trades and if i could do it all again I’d be part owner of some kind of builder or remodeler or specialty trades business. 

I control all the money and pay all the subs directly.. that's how we got in trouble the first time GC not paying subs..

- Value add - How much does it cost to convert Non-climate controlled units to climate controlled units?