It makes total sense that I would need to prove my company is profitable for some time before borrowing.what would happen if I qualify and aquire a loan while I'm still an employee, then become self employed?

It does seem like a great way for you get out of that "employee" status in your business so you can scale.  

My goal is to hopefully self manage until I can hire my own manager as an employee.

In addition, if you are self-employed with no full-time employees you may wish to consider opening a Solo 401k instead of a self-directed IRA as it has several advantages over an IRA LLCsuch as much higher contribution limits, direct checkbook control (i.e. no need to have the account at a speciality trust company), ability to take a 401k loan, exclusion from unrelated debt finance income tax with respect to investment in real estate acquired with non-recourse financing, etc.

That's like a company that does software development giving employees a bonus for referring other good programmers automatically makes the company a "scam". 

Still full time W2 employee.

To get a better idea of what your ideal build would cost, find a build you like on HAR and present that to a builder so they can see the pics (finishes/design etc) and with that particular square footage they can give you an idea of what it will cost.

I've done several closings there and the employees at the village hall are some of the nastiest, rudest people I have ever encountered. 

I managed three teams consisting of 3-4 employees each and led all their projects simultaneously, while overseeing accounting, marketing, and financial operations.

For example, I broke down and bought a forms package for $1,000 that saved me so much time and improved my company, particularly as I brought on employees.