Do these messages disclose that you aren't speaking with the actual owner if you aren't? 

You can find something in Durham and parts of Raleigh, specifically zips 27610, 27603, and parts of 27604 that would meet your criteria, however generally speaking most of the inventory that would fit what you are looking for in Raleigh or Durham would likely be in neighborhoods that I personally wouldn't want to invest in, C- to D type neighborhoods.

@Kana Watanabe I have seen @Christopher J Driscoll Designs for his ADU and they are amazing, He has gone through the process of speaking with a lot of GC's in the area so hes a great resource for all of the above.

Generally speaking, I'm a fan of Stessa, and I use Stessa; however, I use Apartments.com for rent collection.

If you want the exact process you'd need to speak directly to the planning/zoning dept and specifically ask them these questions to outline the exact process for this property. 

-Have an extra umbrella policy-Speak with my real estate attorney to make sure I did enough to limit my liability. 

I think the reason that Grocapitus or Neal Bawa were not getting much response either speaks to their level of participation in BP (Neal obviously doesn't spend much time here), or the fact that unhappy LPs were shy, or happy LPs were shy, or BP does a poor job of really getting posts noticed.

For example:If families frequently comment on the lack of child-friendly amenities, adding a crib or high chair could increase bookings.If professionals mention the need for workspace, consider adding a desk or ergonomic chair.Tailor Your Listing DescriptionOnce you’ve identified your target audience, write a listing description that speaks directly to them.

I can speak for myself and many California investors - out of state investing can be done but you'll need to mitigate risks.

Here’s an example of what I’m speaking of.