Truckee has some tight STR laws and if you're in that game I'd stay.  

Spending too much time on analyzing one deal will put you out of the game on too many other ones...

Howdy, I have been in the game for about 10 years now and have mid seven figures of real estate assets. 

I see where you guys are discussing meetups and varying schedules.

Don't play the blame game.

of those I like next door best because it is hard to fake and the reviews are easily tied to a reviewer in your community.The costs of ADUs vary significantly for various reasons including by ground up vs conversion, difficulty with lot (sloes, access, etc), finishes, and even the size (bigger typically have lower PSF).Good luck

Learn everything about real estate like it's your favorite video game and show your wife how passionate you are and how much you believe in real estate.

Then connect with some hard money lenders (you can find some here on BP as well as some who are typing this right now) and connect with them to understand their product type, what they like to lend on and requirements.Hard money broker is all numbers game of making relationships and helping those that are looking for financing, it starts out slow but if you get with a few good borrowers and lenders it can be pretty decent money to be made.As an example we paid six figures last year to HM brokers. 

We manage between 80 and 100 listings it varies winter to summer but the processing of manually Remitting and paying out the property taxes takes much longer than 10 min.

I am playing a long game.