Speak with lenders early to understand your borrowing power, and explore multifamily properties to maximize your house-hacking potential.

I had tenants that stopped paying rent for 2 years in NY during the pandemic and we couldn't kick them out, i've had tenants move out and leave someone squatting and NY made it impossible to evict them so I had to pay them off, i've had tenants destroy their apartments before they moved out (maggots in the fridge, flushing their kids toys down the toilet etc) so i've dealt with real difficulty.

We were forced to call police & provide them with a 'Cease & Desist' in an effort to stop the harassment.Our attorney has advised that we do not engage with them in any manner.

Part of the investment thesis was getting it for a bargain, then building an ADU complex on it as affordably as possible, getting it to cash flow, and realizing value on both the rental income but also property appreciation given the work going into it.If the property will really only be worth ~$1.70M once we are finished, I will likely just stop the project now and exit the house as soon as possible.If you do not get dollar for dollar for projects such as this, how would house flipping ever work?

If she is getting close enough to thinking that there will be an income disparity, she will stop at nothing to compel my husband to provide income documentation.All finances are joint except for the rental, which I keep rents for in a separate checking account and track spending for.

., your tenant stops paying, you're still in a relatively safe position.

You would actually be borrowing less money than originally but at a higher rate.   

Picture this, your driving down the road and come to a 4-way stop, what do you do?

Lastly and then I will stop rambling... and this is just my opinion. 

I totally recognize that is impatient and greedy.My gut is saying your short picture idea is where we're heading since we are taking the same hit with brokerage account (I didnt even mention borrowing against 401k - yes its not advised but my wife and I have stable W2 income to pay ourselves back) Thanks again, this BP community / forum is awesome