This lead came from a recent widow who wants to get rid of her husband's property.

I have talked to him in more detail about some financial goals that I can go to the cpa and attorney with now, where it will feel a little more balanced and less where I am taking advantage of a grieving widower.

She is a widow and says it's too much to manage. 

My mother just became widowed and now she owns 5 SFR that all have tenants.

So I'm mostly being drawn to multi-family properties, buy-and-hold, starting with small residential properties for the first 3-5 years (starting with a house-hack for my daughter, and potentially another for my recently-widowed MIL), and after a few more small residential properties then maybe scale slightly to a couple small apartment properties. 

Quick backstory, the owner is a widow who has no children or immediate family to speak of.

If the widows work, let them work.

my moms friend is recently widowed, she stopped paying the mortgage and plans to move out/ abandon the house and get a one bedroom apartment.

But option 2 sounds wiser but much more responsible but also man I want to move faster. " style="-webkit-font-smoothing: antialiased; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; border: 0px; font-family: "open sans", sans-serif; font-size: 1rem; font-style: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-weight: normal; font-stretch: inherit; line-height: 22px; vertical-align: baseline; position: relative; overflow: hidden; caret-color: rgb(52, 65, 77); color: rgb(52, 65, 77); letter-spacing: normal; orphans: auto; text-align: start; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; white-space: normal; widows: auto; word-spacing: 0px; -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); text-decoration: none; height: 872px;">Hey everyone.

The tenant's brother is not on the lease but helps her financially since she is a widow.