Just looking for a lender with some flexibility on this.

Whether you should take a retirement distribution or not depends on several factors1) How much do you value the freedom/flexibility to ues the money NOW compared to when you are 60 years old.2) What type of return can you get having cash vs investing in an IRA / SDIRA.If you can make a 1% - 2% better annual return in your personal name, it may make sense as the added return will pay for the penalties over a couple of years.I personally cashed out of my retirement account back in 2016 and it was the best decision I made.

Or flexibility.

It is flexible though, in that I can roll it into any IRA at any time.

It’s flexible—you can invest in rentals, commercial properties, or syndications—but managing it requires careful attention to avoid prohibited transactions.In comparison, a SEP IRA offers tax-deferred growth, which might be better if you expect a lower tax rate in retirement, but it doesn’t avoid UDFI tax on leveraged properties or allow borrowing.Before investing, check if SDIRA Wealth aligns with your goals and review their track record.

Staying Flexible in NegotiationsAs agents, licensees are bound by ethical and legal rules that may limit how they negotiate or market deals.

This flexibility has been crucial for staying competitive and profitable.Flipping homes in San Diego has been a rewarding experience, and what’s made it even more fulfilling is building a business that’s about more than just flipping.

As I'd imagined, it seems like there are no hard-and-fast ways that a deal must be structured, but rather there is room for flexibility depending on the situation, and in any case consultation with experienced professionals at every level is key.

If you can find a place where the HOA or COA is flexible and you are able to convince the membership to go into development and perhaps convert the property into a co-op you could build a new apartment complex with commercial rental spaces on the ground floor and residential spaces on the top. 

Is there that kind of flexibility in a purchase agreement?