Those do have value, although, not worth $16,000, 1+ year of time spent, plus long-term damage to my marriage.

How many marriages have endend in divorce, so much for better or worse.

(PS - Czech by birth; Hungarian by marriage and divorced by choice) :)Although I respect both your opinion and that of my dad, I do disagree to an extent.

I do believe I wouldn't be celebrating 40 years of marriage next year, wouldn't have travelled the world and taken 25 cruises,enjoyed my grand kids, etc.

The 'kink' is that my dad had a daughter from a previous marriage.

A home improvement project, addition, upgrade, remodel, or makeover will not make up for a troubled marriage.

Iirc in VA any real property obtained prior to the marriage was not considered community in the event of divorce and the spouse has no claim...

The aunt whom is related on through marriage was listed as the last rightful owner on county record, and her family is over seas.

What kind of marriage is that?

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