I also listened to ed mylett, Tom bilyeu, Luis Howes and many other motivational speakers and gradually i brained washed her in positive way lol ..

So, I saved approximately 500K over 10 years by doing property management ourselves (which puts my wife's PM expertise value at 50K a year), but missed out on the 20 properties making me an extra 220K each (assuming everything is gradual which means an average gain of 220K per property since 2010 through now) - an opportunity cost of 4.4 million. 

Taking into consideration where we are in this real estate cycle my main question is whether or not I come into these 5 to 7 syndications all at once at this time (as deals arise) or whether not I come and gradually sort of wanna time to get a better idea of where the market is going to go.

What will most likely happen is a gradual reduction in the rate of appreciation until we get back to a more balanced market. 

Maybe you get PM in the beginning and meet with them quarterly to learn the ins and outs, and gradually take over management yourself of the easy units and let them manage the difficult units until you're an expert.

But yes I am aware of the gradual turn around and that is what in my opinion makes it a great place to invest.

I have noticed some banks do a good job of gradually lowering their prices until a property sells, others tend to let more of them sit x amount of time and finally take a lowball offer way below their asking price.I have a little cash, and have bought a couple of houses this way, though I live in one and sold the other on a land contract, so do not have any amazing return stories to share with a potential investor.Lately I have been thinking of trying to find someone to go in 50/50 on the purchase with me.My question is..what should I offer them?

Rents are probably $150 under market rent on both sides.My inclination is to work with people who have a good payment history and move rent up gradually, but I'd like to get the long-term renter into a legal situation on paper.

We raised the rent each month for six months to get it gradually to market rent, and immediately did some improvements to make it actually be worth market.  

One of the first flips you might think about doing is one that you can live in while you gradually do the work.