I first like to short list based on numbers and then deep dive.

I have been considering asking to buy the single family in cash to separate the deal but would like that amount to be subtracted from the purchase price while keeping the cash I would spend on the down payment the same to include the single family that way the seller gets the same amount of cash upfront.

It sounds like you have a strong foundation, and getting one-on-one guidance can definitely help you learn more in taking your next step.

Things started picking up speed, like a snowball rolling downhill.

And while I did like it alot, it caused stress.

i feel like the local FB groups will not allow me to advertise my STR there because they would label it as "soliciting".. any way to get around this so that it doesn't look like i'm soliciting? 

Many experienced RE attorneys should likely already have something similar to your needs that can be amended to suit your business.

We really like it and would like to stay but i don't know if you still intend to keep it now that you're gone.Then go from there.

I am seeking an early retirement and it looks like real estate is the way. 

If you would like to try out I can share the link.