I recommend setting up keyword alerts for each area as they are discussed in the forums daily with advertisements posted in the BiggerPockets marketplace hourly.

Until you get systems set up, this is going to be a daily grind for you.

In my area that gets handled daily with "boundary line agreements".

I mean she invited the coop board over for tea (?!??).  

I've been out for over a year now despite looking daily 5-6 days a week.

It might help to break it down into simple, actionable steps which could look like this: Establish and write down your big goal with a due dateBreak down your big goal into 5-10 significant milestones, again with due datesMake a written daily action plan with simple steps for every day leading up to each milestoneRecruit an accountability partner.

Repair Estimation/Budgeting - Ability to create detailed Scopes of Work & repair costs budgetsBudget Tracking - Ability to track your actual expenses against your initial budgetScheduling - Ability to create a project plan & track project progressChecklists/To Dos - Ability to track daily to-dos and checklists of items that need to be completedCalendars - Ideally all of your Schedules & To-Dos feed into a Calendar that you can use to manage all of your projects in one location.Document Management - Place to store project documents and photosHere are some Project Management tools that you might consider: Trello/Asana/Zoho Projects/Basecamp - General project management software that includes tasks, Gantt scheduling, calendars, project forums, document storage & team collaboration tools. 

Screaming and swearing at each other almost daily and again last night and this morning.

Cap rates have even compressed a lot in Schen in the past 18 mos though, it's tougher to find deals but WAY easier than Albany or Troy, and frankly I'm more comfortable with the safety of many Schen neighborhoods than I am with Troy, there are shootings daily in Troy lately.  

I look through Zillow on a daily basis, and my agent has a blanket area search set through her MLS that automatically sends me multi-family homes in that area once they come available.