I'd be pretty upset if there were hanging wires and mold growing and leaking faucets... in fact, I'd probably be looking for a way out of the rent...Which may be what she wants.

If you buy and resell in five years and pay off their loan, they won't be upset.

So in PA, you will hear an "upset price" (the bank's going to bid up to that number), and the bank's attorney will open by bidding "costs" (the amount of legal fees that are already owed to the Sheriff).

Then the winning bidder has to wait 10 days for any upset bidding.

OH, if I do not bid higher against the other bidders, I won't get the property. 9 times out of 10 - you are bidding against yourself and end up paying a higher price for what you could have got at a much lower price.I used to get upset when banks pulled the "highest and best" strategy on me...Then, I actually started selling some of the houses I was buying, and I realized that the bank was only trying to get the most money they possibly could for the asset they were selling -- and what's wrong with that!

I have never cared much about upsetting a Realtor that wanted to dictate what they would present or tell me what the seller would do, they are usually the ones you don't really care to deal with again anyway.

From that point on I never talk about my REI or any other victories of wealth with anyone from work.

It seems he has a close relationship with her and doesn't want to upset her.

But I can see how it could be construed that way and I can see how they would be upset.

What made me upset was that I didn't even have the real option of saying yes or no.