You may have the means or it may be unreasonable I have no idea but here's my suggestions.1) Look at a duplex or multifamily where you live in the one unit and rent the others out to reduce you living expenses2) purchase a single family home that you can convert a section of the home to a suite with a separate entrance, rent out the suit and house hack3) If you're on the road a lot, perhaps as a consolation would be to have short term rentals (STR) like an airbnb situation while you're off on the road.

If you do not have the patience to renovate the entire home I think a new home will suit you easier.

If you are planning on a long term investment I would recommend you shop around for a loan that better suits your needs. 

I have the costs to start the suit (JF fee), then get permission to send the NoD (NJF fee), then filing the returns and get order to send NoF (JF), send the NoF (NJF), then return to the court (JF). 

You could buy the bank’s interest, then you’d be exactly where they are.....you’d have to file suit, which may or may not be successful, to have the property auctioned off, and split the proceeds accordingly.

We fell in the love with the property and it was build to suit so we didn't have a choice but to go with this builder. 

That could be changed to suit you current feelings.

And you have chosen a software program that is popular with CPA's.If you are an employer and an applicant applies for a position with you and hands you their resume done via an Excel spreadsheet, versus someone who hands you a professional resume done through Microsoft Word or some Resume software program, which one would you think would be the best suited for the job, based on both applicants having the same qualifications?

She says she wants to compensate me in the suit, and send her my credit report to repair my credit for free, and give me half of the $75k bonus because she'll file a lien on the property, but I'm skeptical she might be trying to turn around and sue me, the way things are turning out.Otherwise, things are mostly okay...

Otherwise, savvy "professional tenants" will wait until you file a dispossessory suit on them, and then make a tiny token payment.