As @Jim K. stated to many human elements come into play you cant control.. and its one reason I am so bullish these days on new construction its easier to manage costs and I don't have to compete with all the wanna be wholesalers out there..

I tried numerous times to move my mother in with me but she was now in love with her capture.

There is an element specifically addressing the Qualified Trade or Business definition.Doesn't sound at all auspicious for most rental real estate landlords. 

We want to refinance under our LLC's name but numerous lenders have told us that they'll only refinance under an individual's name.  

I told them numerous times, both verbally and in writing, that the rent must be paid on time every month, yet they continue to break the terms of the payment terms per the rental contract.

There are numerous threads on this in BP.

I would consider knocking the property down and building a home for myself to live in when all is said and done, so I know that adds a different element to it. 

Though there are NUMEROUS situations in which this is not true.Hope this helps!

I've looked at numerous houses.

@Lucas MilburnIndividuals with self directed Individual Retirenent Funds allows individuals to invest those funds in numerous investments tools with one being real estate.